I didn’t even realise this was a thing people did. Huh. When I was a kid I just read way too much to want to have to spend the effort to keep track (even if it would have occurred to me), and while I’ve slowed down a bit now, it’s still too much work. I just remember if I’ve read something. I will have moments going to the library where I’ll pull out something that looks interesting and then wonder ‘have I read this before?’ and then I’ll read a couple pages in until I go 'ah, yep’ or 'nope, seems good’. Or sometimes 'oh, I did read this before, this was good!’ and get it anyway.
Can I ask what people keep track for? Is it just to check so you don’t accidentally reread stuff? I figure if it made an impact I’ll remember it anyway (and it’s probably worth rereading) and if I don’t initially remember it I’ll figure that out a few pages in and decide if it’s worth keeping going or not.
I feel so… down whenever I want to watch queer or trans videos because I know in the back of my mind that none of the current large queer content creators’ content or community is safe for people like me, intersex people.
I love their work otherwise, but it hurts badly to hear them toss around casual intersexism in their videos constantly when discussing queer and trans issues and nobody ever mentions it.
And because these are large, popular creators, nobody has ever listened when I’ve tried to ask they adjust their language. My dms go ignored or unseen and my public comments get drowned out by fans defending their intersexist comments. It’s emotionally draining and exhausting, I just want to be included in my own community.
Genuinely asking if you are comfortable sharing, but what are some examples of “casual intersexism”? I’m honestly less read up on it than I should as someone who is intersex. Feel free to ignore this though should you not feel like it or anything.
Stripping our intersex status when it fits an argument, ex. “Cis kids get put on hormones no problem while trans kids are denied them” (While they ignore that these are intersex children forced onto hormones)
Using us when it does fit an argument, but ignoring us entirely outside of that context, ex. Using intersex people existing to validate trans people existing, but never doing any sort of intersex advocacy unless it directly benefits/includes trans people as well
Erasing intersex issues while attempting to argue trans rights, ex. “No child is getting forced sex changes, that’s not a thing that happens” (It doesn’t happen to trans people, but happens all the time to intersex people)
Saying that sex is binary but gender isn’t (Neither of them are binary)
Reducing intersex people down to cis people with disorders, ex. “Cis people without uteruses” or “Cis people with gynecomastia”
In addition to the above point, generally acting as if intersex people are not oppressed or as though we have it better than trans people do, often by calling us cis and disordered rather than intersex, ex. “Cis women with high testosterone levels are allowed in sports but trans people aren’t” (Which is not even really a true statement) or by wishing that they were intersex or openly admitting to calling themselves intersex in their personal life in an attempt to avoid discrimination
Casual use of the word “Hermaphrodite”
Calling intersex animals trans/nonbinary
Ignoring blatant intersexism, never calling it out
Calling bills/laws or other issues which directly impact intersex people “trans bills” instead of “trans and intersex bills”, such as the recent Kansas bill directly targeting intersex people being called a “trans bill” - making these bills aiming to exterminate intersex people solely about trans people and ignoring the bills’ direct attack on intersex people
When these issues are brought up, saying that intersex people are “just caught in the crossfire/unfortunately affected by mistake but not intentionally, it’s about trans people not intersex people”
Saying that intersex people are not LGBT/queer (Not all intersex people identify as queer, but we have always been part of queer community and should not be pushed out)
Reducing intersex people down to a statistic
Common misinformation, such as saying that being intersex means “being born with both parts”
Using afab and amab as equal to “perisex female” and “perisex male”, ex. Talking as if all afabs are born with the same hormonal, genetic, or reproductive profiles
when a british actor does an american accent everyone’s like “i didn’t even know they were british until they were on colbert.” but when americans do a british accent everyone’s like “they’re supposed to be from east cocksford but their glottal e’s are north dicksford. shameful.”
Saw an interesting interview with Hugh Laurie talking about this (on playing House and ‘getting away with’ doing an American accent):
“…. because they’re much less interested…they don’t have that 'Professor Higgins’ ear for…. class and background and geography and the way the British are much more attuned to wait a second where are you from and what trick are you trying to pull on me by… with that particular choice of words. I think partly again because it’s such a big country nobody really…. it doesn’t bother people so much where you’re from or why you sound the way you sound. America’s a country that’s too big to know itself. Someone living in Florida’s go no idea how people behave or what they eat or how they dress in Oregon, it’s just so far away - whereas we know, of course, we know absolutely everything about… every British drama we watch, we’re like, well that’s High Wycombe, that could never happen because it’s a one way system there! whereas America’s so mythically grand, it’s too big to know it'self, and that actually has an affect with things like accent. ”
@lgbtqcreators event 13 — adaptations ↳ THE GIRLS I’VE BEEN as a netflix original series (temp/late)
this question is why did you risk yourself and why aren’t you crying and why aren’t you shaking and all the questions that really boil down to what the fuck is your damage, nora?
i hope the beloved mutuals don’t think me unintellectual for this but i love romantic subplots i gobble them up delightedly with very few exceptions. ‘oh fuck yes a little bowl of seeds for me’ etc
“how are they finding time to fall in love when the worlds ending” and what are we all doing right now 🤨
Young women today blaming feminism for the evils of capitalism… i want you to have time to pick berries as well but that’s not on women in the 70s for wanting to have a life independent of their husbands
Not only this, I’ve seen people blame the 2nd wave feminist movement for stagnating wages. They claim that, because women entered and saturated the workforce, employers can get away with paying everyone less. Not everyone comes out and says the quiet part out loud, but a lot of these arguments have the obvious implication of “things were better when the workforce was mostly men and women were just homemakers.”
Like not only is this historically inaccurate (poor women and many women of color have always had to work outside the home, for one), it’s so victim-blamey. Instead of getting angry at the corporations who keep making more and more record profits every year while continuing to underpay their employees, let’s get angry at women fighting for and achieving financial independence.
“reblog this or you don’t support minorities!” “if you don’t reblog this then all of your followers should hate you!” “if you have a bad thought then you actually think that way and you’re a horrible person!” “you can only like ‘good’ things and if you like something ‘bad’ then you’re awful!” i am going to throttle you with my bare hands
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